“All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me. You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.”
– Walt Disney
Someone who has nothing to do with my day-to-day life, and doesn’t even live anywhere near me called me today to tell me that I should spend less time on my blog because, and I quote, “we called you that time because we wanted you to do something for us and you didn’t have time to talk because you had 3 posts to write.” Yes, you read that correctly. Needless to say, I was flabbergasted, dumbfounded, and livid. Rajni, your life should not be your priority, mine should. I’m still bowled over.
I took me a long time to regain my center of peace after that call, but I kept thinking it’s about me. What am I doing to bring this unwanted intrusion into my consciousness? It took me a couple of hours to bring the focus back to me instead of focusing on what would prompt anyone to be so self-absorbed and self-righteous. I knew that the answer was right in front of me, but I couldn’t see what was at the root of this experience until I put my ego aside and allowed my own behavior and hidden beliefs to surface.
As I’ve discussed before, I have a hard time setting boundaries, and despite my best intentions, I continue to put everyone else’s schedule, needs and favors ahead of my own stuff. I have a very bad habit of dropping whatever I’m doing to answer a call, respond to a text or do something for someone else, regardless of the inconvenience to me. As a result, the people I behave like this with think I’m never busy, they expect me to always answer my phone, and think they are entitled to know why I didn’t answer my phone on the rare occasion, that God forbid, I’m unable to get to it fast enough. I have effectively created a situation that absolutely doesn’t serve me, and more importantly makes me miserable. As much as I wanted to blame the other person for their behavior, I know that I am at the root of everything I experience, and I realized that I believe that I should stop what I’m doing to take care of them.
I am the first person to tell you to throw that word out of your vocabulary. Never think it, never act on it, and never let it guide you.
At first I thought I
shouldn’t write about this seemingly negative situation, but like I said the other day, I have to deal with negative situations head on. There is something to gain from everything we experience. So, what did this experience do for me? Of course, it was a reminder to love myself, and to let go of this limiting belief that does not serve me, but it also gave me an opportunity to share this with you:
When you let the behavior of others destroy your peace of mind, it’s YOU who’s doing it to yourself, the other person has gone about their business, and either doesn’t remember or care how they affected you.
We all have people in our lives who rattle us, and it isn’t always easy to see that we create the unwanted behavior with of our own thoughts and beliefs, but the realization that we are the cause also gives us back control over our own experience.
Understand that the experience ends the moment it happens, it’s in the past. It will only continue to live if you continue to bring it forward with you into the present.
Once you get that, you can laugh instead of getting rattled, and harness that energy to propel yourself forward towards the life of your dreams. There’s nothing like a bit of adrenaline to get you motivated to reach your goals, and let your colors burst.
Blog Beats: Firework by Katy Perry
When you are faced with a situation that makes you feel upset or angry, take a moment to process. Look inside and find out what you are doing to create or allow the situation. With genuine sincerity, be thankful to the people who got you all fired up. Let it go and leave it in the past. Then, instead of being angry or upset, harness that energy to manifest your dreams as you shoot across the sky.
You’re gonna leave them all in awe.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!