What’s Fate Got To Do With It?

Day 77

RULE #52

MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN

“One day, someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anyone else.”

– Unknown

My mom asked me who the guy from yesterday’s post was. I explained that I never told her about him because there was no point since we decided not to pursue it. She said, “It wasn’t written, it will only happen where it is written. And when that times comes, nothing will stop it. We have a saying that marriages are made in heaven, do you believe that?”

I believe marriages are made in heaven. This is a concept I’m very familiar with, it’s part of the Indian culture. Indians believe that everything is written, that things happen, or don’t happen according to fate or Karma.

My marriage partner must have missed the express train from heaven, and is on the scenic route, I expect him to show up any day now! 😉

Seriously, when I first learned about the Law of Attraction, I grappled with the concept because I couldn’t reconcile how the Law of Attraction fit with the concepts of Karma and fate. On the face of it, they seem to be opposing ideas. The LOA states that we attract our experiences based on our thoughts, beliefs and desires; whereas the concept of fate is defined as something that you have no control over, that the occurrence of a certain experience is predestined. Karma takes it a step further, with the idea that things happen based on a system of checks and balances against our actions from past lives, from the entire soul’s journey. For example, He’s unlucky in love because he must have hurt someone in his past lives, and what’s happening now is the fruit of his Karma (actions).

The only flaw with that definition of Karma is that the Universe does not judge. I think Karma is not so much a balance sheet, but the soul’s choice. Our souls choose what we wish to experience in each life based on what we’ve experienced in past lives. In one life, you might chose a male experience, and the next time around, you might want to see what it’s like to be a woman. We are more comfortable defining Karma as Divine Retribution because it makes us feel better when we go through unpleasant experiences, otherwise we’d have to accept that we chose the hard time we are currently experiencing. The truth is, we did choose it, simply for the sake of the experience.

It took a while to get my head around it, but I was able to resolve how all of these concepts not only fit together, but indeed are two sides of the same coin, well three sides, but you get the idea.

There are no coincidences, everything that comes into our consciousness is the Universe’s way of offering us possibilities to choose from, and we accept the experiences we want by responding with our desires.

Here’s how it works. You randomly meet someone new. This is the Universe’s way of presenting you with a possibility. That’s an act of fate.

Then, you start to feel an attraction to this new person, something resonates with your soul, something inside awakens. A desire is born. That’s your soul remembering that it chose the experience that the Universe presented. That’s Karma.

Now, your thoughts and feelings intensify and the person becomes your central focus, so the Universe goes to work to manifest your desire. All kinds of synchronicities start to take place – all of a sudden, the person you just met is everywhere you go, and until that point, you never even knew they existed. Then everything starts falling into place. They say that you just know when it’s ‘the one’ – it’s because you do know. Your soul knows, you feel like your wish is fulfilled, you know it’s a done deal, you are living in the state of having received. That’s the Law of Attraction.

If you’re still waiting for your prince or princess to come riding in on their white horse, don’t lose faith, they might just be on the slow boat to China along with my partner, but they will show up when the timing is right, and then you’ll know why it never worked out with anyone else.

Thank you, thank you, thank you!