“What kind of life have you lived, little one, that everything seems to be a question of fair and unfair? Life and death just are. Fair has nothing to do with it.”
– Sherrilyn Kenyon
Life isn’t fair. Right?
Of course not. Things never go your way. Good things don’t happen to you. Bad things happen to good people. Nice guys finish last. And the list goes on…because life’s not fair.
I thought this post was going to be hard for me to write because I know I believe this universal limiting belief, and I’m sure most of you do too. Funny thing happened as I sat down to write – I started thinking about how I could possibly write a convincing argument in support of this being a limiting belief as opposed to the gospel truth. I mean, it is true, we’ve all experienced it, and it’s a fact – life is not fair.
That’s what was running through my head when I started to write this post, and these are the unfiltered, spontaneous words that poured out:
Do you believe bad things happen to good people? If so, you believe that if you’re a “good” person, you should experience only positive things, and shitty things should only happen to “bad” people. This belief implies that life is not fair, and fairness means seemingly bad things will never be part of your experience.
The thing is, “bad” things are not only fair, but necessary for so many reasons – they guide you, and help to shape and manifest your desires. They help you grow, they teach you how to see and appreciate all the good you do have. I’d say that’s more than fair; it’s fabulous!
Hmmm. Maybe I do believe life is fair. It’s quite possible that my 7 months of positivity and writing about how everything happens for a reason has actually changed my limiting belief so gradually that I didn’t even realize that it was gone until now.
That reminds me, today is the completion of the 7th month of my Positivity 365 Project. Woot woot!
I planned to mention EFT Tapping to clear this belief, as I’ve said with the rest of this Lose Your Mind, Find Your Soul series, and of course, that is the most effective way to quickly clear this belief, but I’ve just discovered that another way to reprogram this belief is simply to understand the reason you are here. Once you realize that you’re in complete control of your experience, you’ll know that fair really has nothing to do with it.
“Fair means everyone gets what they need. And the only way to get what you need is to make it happen yourself.”
– Rick Riordan
Nike agrees, take a look:
At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what the dice rolled, only what you believe it means.
“Life is fair. We all get the same nine-month shake in the box, and then the dice roll. Some people get a run of sevens. Some people, unfortunately, get snake-eyes. Its just how the world is.”
– Stephen King
No matter what the dice rolls, embrace the experience – it’ll get you to your end game no matter how your story begins.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!