“It sounds like a cliché but I also learnt that you’re not going to fall for the right person until you really love yourself and feel good about who you are.”
– Emma Watson
I’ve written many posts with the message that self-love must come before you can realize any desire, whether it is personal, professional, or anything else. One area where it’s most obvious is with a romantic soul connection.
Until you accept yourself completely, you won’t connect with a romantic partner on all levels. Until then, you may connect on many levels, and feel love, but that elusive, indescribable soul connection will only come when you accept yourself completely, because your romantic partners are a reflection of how you feel about yourself.
In the meantime, different people show up in your life to show you what needs healing and acceptance. When you no longer focus on what you are lacking, and accept and love yourself just the way you are, you send an energetic vibration out that will attract that soul connection because that feeling of complete acceptance is a reflection of your Divine Self.
The connection could be with someone new, or it might even be a new level of connection with a life-long partner, because when you change your thoughts and beliefs, it changes your relationships accordingly. Don’t worry, if you’re happy with your current partner, total self-acceptance will only enhance your connection with each other, you write the script.
I’m going to share a love story of that kind of connection with you today. Yesterday, I caught up with a friend who I’ve been friends with for 24 years now, so we’ve been through a lot of life’s ups and downs together over the years. Last time we spoke she told me about the changes in her life that were a direct result of her accepting herself and her life just the way it is. She made a decision that this was her year. Soon after she made that declaration to herself, she was offered a very large promotion at work and coincidentally met her soulmate.
Of course, we know it wasn’t coincidence. In all the time I’ve known her, I’ve never known her to be more sure of herself than she is now, and she’s always been pretty confident. But there is something different about her, she has a quiet confidence that I haven’t seen before and she is completely accepting of who she is.
She had tried the online dating thing in the past and it hadn’t really worked for her, but this particular day, she decided to take another look. She came across an intriguing profile, and despite her reservations, she winked at him – that’s the equivalent of a non-verbal “like” on most social media. She was pleasantly surprised when the guy responded to her wink, and they struck up a conversation. Eventually, they spoke on the phone and met.
When she met him, he somehow felt familiar to her, but she couldn’t place it. After they’d been getting to know each other for a while, she told him he felt familiar to her, and he said “that’s because we’ve met before.” She had no idea where or when their paths might have crossed in the past. It wasn’t work, it wasn’t school, and it wasn’t family friends or someone from the same neighborhood she grew up in – they’d covered all that.
But he remembered.
When my friend was in grade 4, her teacher used to bring his son to school with him when his son’s school had a holiday, and the young boy would participate in his dad’s class even though he was in grade 5. He was paired off with my friend for class activities and they became friends over the course of the year, they even spoke on the phone with each other. Then they went their separate ways to live their lives for almost 40 years.
Until their souls were ready. Until this girl responded to his online profile. As soon as he saw her eyes, he knew, his soul knew, it was her. The one his soul had been waiting for all these years. As they say, the rest is history. They have a level of comfort and ease with each other that normally takes years to develop, and sometimes never does. Their souls found each other once they were both ready to embrace their own perfection.
That’s the power of self-acceptance. You attract the love that you give yourself. So give yourself all the love and acceptance you have to give, and doors will open for you in every area of your life.
Whatever you feel, will be.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!