“Chronic self-doubt is a symptom of the core belief, ‘I’m not good enough.’ We adopt these types of limiting beliefs in response to our family and childhood experiences, and they become rooted in the subconscious…we have the ability to take action to override it.”
– Lauren Mackler
At some point, we have all believed that we’re not good enough – whether it was for your dream job, or the hottie that you thought would never give you a second glance, or the program you thought you’d never get accepted to because it only accepts the “best of the best”, or that audition for the gig of a lifetime, or whatever your “unattainable” desire was.
I know I have, but it’s so subtle that when you’re doubting your ability to achieve your desire, you aren’t even aware of this underlying belief, and you most likely don’t know where it came from in the first place. This ‘I’m not good enough‘ belief was formed by attaching meaning to events and experiences in our lives.
“An event has no meaning on it’s own, it’s just an experience, but once we interpret it with the impact it has on our lives, we form a belief based on our judgment. For example, the rain on it’s own is neither “good” or “bad”, but if you’re a farmer whose in the middle of a drought, the rain is a welcome “good” blessing, and if you’re a bride about to have your outdoor wedding ruined because of the rain, you will form a belief that rain is “bad”. It’s your belief, and not the event that creates your experience.”
– Rajni Kurichh
You may have developed this belief at a young age through observation of the world around you, or were told that you didn’t have “what it takes” by a teacher or coach. You might have interpreted the actions of those around you to mean you weren’t good enough, or maybe you experienced a disappointment that led to this belief.
Take a moment to examine your thoughts. Can you think of an experience where you thought you weren’t good enough? Can you feel it in your body? Are your shoulders tensing up? Do you feel angst in the pit of your stomach? That’s a sure sign that you hold this belief at some level.
Try to trace it back. When did you start believing it? Now that you’re aware of it, you can work to clear this belief and replace it with a more useful, positive belief that serves you better.
Here’s a tapping script from Brad Yates that will help to clear your belief that you’re not good enough. You can tap along, or use your own words to clear the root belief that you’ve just uncovered.
Moving forward, be mindful of the next time you experience this feeling and clear any other beliefs that come up.
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Soon, you’ll find that you don’t hold this belief anymore, and you will begin to notice the positive impact it has on your life…just like this kid from Mexico.
Let ’em laugh. You are good enough!
Thank you, thank you, thank you!