“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”
– Brian Tracy
Do you find yourself struggling with the same issue over and over again, or repeating the same conflict in multiple scenarios, or being given the same feedback from different people? I believe there’s a reason for it, and the pattern will continue until you absorb the essence of the message the Universe is trying to give you.
I believe everything happens for a reason, whether it’s to help you overcome an obstacle, clear a limiting belief or challenge your view of the world. Ultimately, your experiences – the “good” and the “bad” guide you to the next step on your journey into self-discovery and joy.
As you know, I started to work on my health and fitness goals at the beginning of the month. I’ve gone up and down with my weight for much of my adult life, and for the last few years, no matter how fit I was, like a lot of people, I always found something wrong with my appearance. I now know that this thought process is the reason for my ups and downs with weight, because my thoughts of lack created the undesirable situation.
That got me thinking about why we tend to repeat the same patterns of behavior, and struggle with the same issues multiple times. As I peel back the layers of when and why I gained weight at certain periods in my life, I can see the correlation between the weight and an unpleasant event in my life.
Ok, great, I’ve analyzed the symptom, and I can trace it back to certain points in time. So now what?
That’s a good starting point, but that doesn’t really answer why there appears to be a repetitive pattern or give me any clues on how to break the cycle. Why am I faced with this issue over and over again?
Dig deeper Rajni, dissect the analysis; it will lead to the root of what’s going on inside. What is the lesson you get from each of those “negative” circumstances?
Your external world is simply a mirror reflection of what’s going on inside of you.
Ah ha! When I went beyond the blame, and examined the “circumstances responsible for my situation”, it became clear to me that I’m facing the same issue repeatedly simply so I can learn the lesson I need to get from the “undesirable” circumstance. For me, I believe that I need to learn to love myself unconditionally in order to break my cycle of weight gain.
I thought about some other people I know who are struggling with a repetitive cycle of their own, and I was able to see the lesson they need to take from their reoccurring experiences in order to move forward and realize their dreams too; it becomes clear when you get past the blame and struggle and listen to the messages you are receiving from the Universe, either from within or through others. Are people always telling you not to worry so much? Perhaps you don’t feel safe? Are you accused of being ungrateful? Perhaps you’re not recognizing all the blessings you already have? Are you worried about what others think? Maybe you need to love yourself more.
If you want to change your circumstances, and finally drop the weight that you’re struggling with, go past the obvious blame game to find the lesson that you need to imbibe. Once you do, you will move towards something bigger and better than your current situation.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!