“No matter how much we “drink” from the ocean; neither you or I will ever deplete its abundance.”
– Rajni Kurichh
We live in a world where we are taught that we must compete for the top spot, implying that we should strive to be better than others, rather than being the best we can be. Often, we aren’t aware of these beliefs that are ingrained in us until we notice a pattern. Patterns are pretty good indicators that you’re holding on to a belief that’s creating the re-occruing experience.
If you want to change your experience, you need to change the belief behind it.
I touched on the idea of lifting each other up by acknowledging and recognizing the talents of others yesterday. It brought a limiting belief that I’ve been holding about the competition vs. cooperation paradigm to my consciousness.
I hate office politics; it’s one of the reasons I left the corporate world. I’m not a competitive person, I never have been, I’ve always been about sharing and giving. So, when people ask me for help, I have no problem offering my talent, ideas and resources to help them shine.
It often comes back to bite me in the butt.
When I was about 5 years old, my sisters and I would often get coins from our parents to go buy treats at the store. I would always ask for the gold ones because they were gold and I liked them better. Of course, my older and wiser sisters opted for the larger silver coins. Even though I got more coins than my sisters, I understood mine had less buying power, but I didn’t care. I would buy ten penny-candies with my ten shiny gold coins, and share them with everyone.
It made me happy. I believed there were plenty of coins to come.
In my corporate life, people would often take credit for my work; work that I’d spent hours on, and poured my heart into, only to have a colleague claim it for their own, leaving me feeling crushed, frustrated and in a no-win situation. You know the feeling?
When I started this blog, I thought those days of people trying to claim my work for their own were over. I was wrong. Now, I’m on the world wide web, where anyone can take my words, thoughts and ideas and use them as their own if they choose not to credit me for it – and that has happened a number of times. Of course, my well-wishers say “imitation is flattery”, and I know it is, but still, it’s annoying, right?
I started thinking about why this is occurring, and what it says about my beliefs. I became aware that like the 5-year old kid in me, I believe there’s no need to compete with others because there’s enough for all of us on a conscious level, but I’m holding a belief from my experience in the corporate world that’s lingering in the background, creating my experience despite my conscious beliefs. Now that I’m aware of it, I can clear this limiting belief in order to change my experience to what I consciously believe:
Cooperation is the path to abundance and success.
We don’t need to compete with one another – each of us have access to an inner knowing that supplies an endless stream of knowledge, ideas and inspiration to us, intended for our own unique voice. In fact, we can achieve much more for ourselves and others by lifting each other up.
“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.”
– Zig Ziglar
Our conditioning and socialization about abundance and scarcity create unwanted patterns of experience. Check in with yourself to see if you’re holding an outdated belief about competition that’s creating an experience you don’t want.
The truth is there are more than enough gold and silver coins for all of us.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!