Lose Control

Day 162

“The more you lose yourself in something bigger than yourself, the more energy you will have.”

– Norman Vincent Peale

My dad always used to tell me to stay focused on the big picture, on my goal, and not to get caught up in the distractions along the way. Similarly, The Fourth Insight is about staying focused on Who You Really Are and drawing your energy from a higher source rather than taking it from others.

I think this insight is one of the most useful tools that anyone can use to improve themselves, their relationships with others, and their lives. Not too long ago, I shared my thoughts on how we connect with one another, and one of the things that I mentioned was that people show up the way we expect them to. This insight offers some explanation on why we expect those behaviors from specific people.

We have lost our connection to Source Energy, and that’s why we’ve lost sight of Who We Really Are. As a result, we are depleted of energy and we subconsciously try to replenish it by taking energy away from others through our individual behavior patterns.

We all have a go-to default reaction to unwanted situations, and according to The Celestine Prophecy, we learn those behaviors as children, in response to the environment we grow up in. We quickly adapt and learn how to manipulate our parents for attention, and that becomes our default pattern to gain energy from others as adults as well.

When we experience stressful and challenging situations, it drains our energy and we fall into our default energy sucking behavior in order to energize ourselves. The people we play out our dramas with unwittingly respond with the opposing pattern, which is exactly what we need in order to get their energy. For example, if your behavior pattern is to be aloof and standoffish in a confrontational situation, the other person will automatically resort to asking questions to try to engage you, and voilà, you’ve sucked their energy and replenished your depleted resources.

The key to breaking this endless cycle is to figure out what your pattern is and become conscious of your behavior. Once you are aware of your own response pattern to difficult situations, you can choose not to engage in the energy depleting behavior, and rely on the ever abundant Source Energy instead.

The Fourth Insight: Human Control Dramas

“Becoming aware of your Control Drama that is wrongly used to manipulate energy from others.

Too often humans cut themselves off from the greater source of this energy and then feel weak and insecure. To gain energy, we tend to manipulate or force others to give us attention and their energy. When we successfully dominate others in this way, we feel more powerful, but they are left weakened and often fight back. Competition for scarce, human energy is the cause of all conflict between people.

When we seek the ethic of giving and not taking from, or manipulating others, we step into consciousness. We begin to detect our ego’s past manipulation devices, Control Dramas, we have used to build ourselves up at another’s expense. If we are mindful and catch ourselves every time we begin our “Control Drama,” eventually, our “Control Drama” falls away completely. The dramatics begin to fall away until we can stop ourselves before we ever lapse into such a trap. Now, through giving, we can move forward Synchronistically in freedom — ready to experience, even more, extraordinary moments of God’s connection.”

– James Redfield

When you let go of your control dramas and tune in to your higher self, you feel energized all the time, and you naturally engage in positive behavior, which then attracts more positive energy and experiences to you.

Like my father said, stay laser focused on your goal, and don’t get caught up in the energy sucking dramas around you. It will ultimately result in the manifestation of your dream life!

Thank you, thank you, thank you!