“Think outside the box? Indeed. But to add balance to that, one should not in the process forget what the inside of the box looks like as well.”
– Criss Jami
When I share the concept of the Law of Attraction with someone who is unfamiliar with the idea that everything in their experience is a manifestation of their thoughts and beliefs; that like attracts like; and that the Universe is always working to manifest their desires, the first reaction most people have is “I didn’t want this [insert “bad” thing] to happen, I wasn’t thinking it, or wishing for it to happen, so how can I have created it?”
Even when we’re focused on the positive, things don’t always go our way, and then we might think the process isn’t working, that the Law of Attraction is somehow flawed or that it’s not real. I’m sure you’ve come across a barrage of sites and people professing to have found the “missing ingredient” to the Law of Attraction.
There is no missing ingredient, the Law of Attraction is simple: like attracts like. Period.
Not exactly rocket science. But the application of this simple principle is where things tend to get complicated – it is not your conscious thoughts alone that create your reality; your subconscious underlying beliefs actually do the heavy lifting, and we are often unaware of those limiting beliefs. Nevertheless, your conscious thoughts create your beliefs, so as well as clearing limiting beliefs, a positive perspective is a step in the right direction.
After nine months of immersion in positivity – if not always having positive thoughts, at least always writing about positive thoughts, I have a deeper understanding of what it means to be positive today than I did 275 days ago, when I began this journey.
Being positive simply means to find the good in every situation, despite the outward appearance of negativity.
In other words, even if you perceive a situation to be “bad”, being positive doesn’t mean to put blinders on, or to act like a robot and see a “bad” situation as “good”; rather it means to look beyond the negative, and find out what good could come from the unwanted situation.
When you can look inside the “box of negativity”and come up with as many thoughts as you can about what desire(s) the Universe is trying to fulfill with this circumstance, and focus on that outcome instead of dwelling on the experience you don’t want, that’s positive.
Here’s an example: You lose your job.
Most people would think that losing their job is a “bad” thing, and that they certainly didn’t want it to happen. Agreed, but maybe you have a desire for a greater income, more autonomy, a better work environment, shorter hours, more time to spend doing things outside of work, a desire to start your own business, early retirement…I could go on.
Suffice it to say, you may have a desire that your limited expression has not fulfilled, and you must expand in order to manifest it – the Universe simply pushes you towards it, or clears the path so you have the space for your desire to materialize.
Once you begin to focus on what good can come out of a “bad” situation, your positive thoughts will attract the ideas, people and resources you need to manifest that vision.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!