“Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble.”
– Yehuda Berg
Today’s small change, big result topic is how your words help to shape your reality. I’ve been trying to write this post for a couple of hours now, but I haven’t gotten too far. This is a hard topic for me because I’m a straight shooter; I tell it like it is, and more often than I intend, my words have an edge. I have improved a lot.
My father always used to say that the intention behind the action matters more than the action itself, and although that’s true when it comes to words as well, how you say it is as important as what you say.
Words are powerful. They express your thoughts and beliefs. And we know that your thoughts and beliefs create your reality. So, when you speak, even when you are speaking to others, you are speaking to yourself – your subconscious is always listening, waiting to fulfill your wishes based on your thoughts, and it takes what you say literally, so be mindful of your speech.
“We speak not only to tell other people what we think, but to tell ourselves what we think. Speech is a part of thought.”
– Oliver Sacks
For example, if you have a hard time accepting a compliment, and when someone offers you some praise, you downplay their words or deny their validity, you are telling yourself that you do not possess that complimentary quality. And then the Universe goes to work to fulfill your belief that you do not have that complimentary quality. If you don’t know how to react to appreciation, don’t say anything at all, and just try to feel grateful for the compliment.
The flip side of this is, of course, is whether to keep your mouth shut when you have something unpleasant to say to another. It’s important to express your thoughts and feelings so they don’t build up as energy blocks within you, but the critical factor in the delivery of your speech is intention.
When you speak your truth authentically, from a place of kindness and love, the message you are trying to convey to others, and subsequently, the stories you tell yourself will have a positive impact, even when the thought that you are expressing isn’t a pleasant one. If the words are sweet, and the intention behind the message is to help or heal, the message will be received in kind.
“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.”
– Shannon L. Alder
Like I said, I don’t have a silver tongue, but I have become more mindful of what I say, and how I say it. Sometimes, simply taking a second to formulate your thoughts before you speak can make all the difference. The key is to be conscious of your thoughts before you utter a word, especially when you are speaking to yourself. These simple strategies will ensure that the messages you send out through the ethers attract goodness back to you and everyone you interact with.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!